How to handle your anger

Have you been experiencing anger lately? Don’t you know that there are proven ways on how to handle your anger? In studies and in clinical work, anger can help clarify relationship problems, clinch business deals, fuel political agendas and give people a sense of control during uncertain times. More globally, they note, it can spur an entire culture to change for the better, as witnessed by the civil rights movement of the 1960s and the earlier women’s suffrage movement.(Read more: When anger’s a plus)

In this article, let us find out how we can handle our anger properly.

1. BE ANGRY WITH THE RIGHT PERSON

Misplaced aggression is one of the prime reasons for child abuse and physical violence among adults. We vent our feelings on the weak and helpless victims who cannot defend themselves

Misplaced anger is never constructive. When we are angry with someone for a specific act that they have done to us, let us direct our anger to what they did and focus on how to resolve the issue rather than spend the rest of your time nurturing your anger.

Jesus instructed us to go to the person with whom we have a problem and to deal with the problem face to face, one on one.

2. BE ANGRY FOR THE RIGHT CAUSE

We get angry over the wrong thing so we need to practice more discipline. Identifying the root cause of our anger would help us feel better. Feeling better would also help us think about the proper way on how to resolve our anger.

You see, if you get angry for the right cause and you put your anger least, you can easily find a way on how to resolve things rather than stressing yourself over what had already transpired.

Read: Matthew 21:12-13

3. BE ANGRY FOR THE RIGHT DURATION OF TIME

“In your anger do not sin”-Ephesians 4:26

Losers are those who do not forgive, and the real winners are those who forgive. Life is too short to spend it with anger. Gather your thoughts and let your anger last for a short period of time.

4. BE ANGRY IN THE RIGHT WAY.

If anger could be directed against the problem rather than the person who created the problem, it becomes constructive and positive. Even Jesus experienced anger when he saw the people trading in front of the temple but he did not let his anger lead him to commit a sin. Constructive criticism is appreciated but griping is not tolerated

Anger when used properly can be a force that rights away and corrects injustices, it leaves innocent victims hurt and destroyed.

5. LIVE, LOVE AND LAUGH

Example: Ingrid Betancourt (Colombia)

She cling to her faith in God and the hope that she would once again united with her children

This article was based on the notes of Ms. Julin Albin Guzman (+)